Years ago the refrigerator was always open. As was the pantry door, and usually the snack cabinet. With three kids, and their waves of friends, someone was always hungry.
The grew up and for a while I kept things like stuffed olives and spinach bread in the refrigerator and we changed from kraft cheese blocks to artisanal offerings laid out on a bamboo cutting board with matching slicer.
Grandkids came and we reopened the snack cabinet and laughed as subsequent 2 year olds made their way to the cheese balls and gushers…the pantry found itself loaded with teething biscuits and oddly orange cheese noodles. Lucky to have all of our kids live within 10 minutes distance, we went through packing lunch for one of them to pick up on his way to work, setting two extra places at the table, just in case, and dropping coffee and protein boxes off to our daughters job.
We moved, only 30 minutes down the road, to a smaller house. Not “on the way” to anyones normal destinations, and it took me a while to realize I didnt need to buy frozen waffles, oreo cookies or boxes of pizza. Fruit snacks and yogurt sticks passed their expiration dates before they were tossed and I realized I missed feeding them all…
The nor’easter brought 3 snow days to our area. We drove home from our beach place in case we were needed for emergency childcare. Late yesterday afternoon the youngest came to pick up her 2 and headed for the kitchen. “Wheres the leftover brisket?” Her husband turned on the coffee pot and she pulled the provolone cheese from the refrigerator. Today my son came to pick up his 2, said hello, went straight to the kitchen, opened the nacho chips and new jar of salsa, sat in his dads chair and enjoyed an afternoon snack. I sat, amazed and humbled that they still know they are “home” when they walk in the door. Doors slam, cupboards open and years of memories rush back. Life is good.
yesterday at 7:25 am the phone rang. Daughter in law had locked her and granddaughter out of house, and car. Ran up there — slippers and all , let her in and took sweet granddaughter to her aunts house to catch the school bus. Put all 3 kids in my car and discussed mermaid pillows and the woes of Monday.
noon. The phone rings. Son asking if I can pick said granddaughter up at the bus stop at 4. Daughter in law is in a meeting until 4. Of course. did the grocery shopping, finished the bills, watched ten minutes of news….headed to the bus. Spent a few minutes with oldest daughter, discussing dinosaurs with 3 year old half dressed grandson ( this child hates shirts) and watching her dog steal socks from the laundry basket and eat duplos. walked up to the bus stop, gathered the three of them off the bus, chatted about recess antics and bus aides and let them back to the house. Grabbed a pizza left over from birthday party to take to son’s house, buckled granddaughter into car and drove her home. Son and daughter in law and youngest grandson were already there — spent a few minutes discussing “whats that” with the baby.
5:30. Meet youngest daughter and son in law for dinner ( kids eat free on Mondays!) both grandsons wired up — the older ( all of 6 years old ) celebrating his first wrestling tournament ( took second) and the younger (4) excited to be at a restaurant with macaroni and cheese AND ice cream.
8:00 pm. Hit the couch. Blessed with the realization that I saw, hugged and talked to all 7 grandchildren in one day!
7:20 am. : Standing, half asleep, in front of the coffee pot.. phone wakes me. Son asking if I can pick up granddaughter and take her to aunts to get the bus. Uh, no. I could get her and take her to school, but no way I can get dressed and get to her and get her there by bus time….”Its ok mom, we will figure it out”.
7:24 am. Phone rings. Youngest daughter. her youngest is up coughing all night…can I watch him? Can I take him to doctor? Of course, bring him to me…….
Whew. This is pretty much why I retired — to help with the kids in Winter. But, Lord, what a 24 hours!
Why is it that my grown daughter feels it is ok to ignore my phone calls? I know cell phones are invasive, and that you dont HAVE to answer them, but its her mother for God’s sake, wouldnt you think she’d pick up just to make sure everything is ok????? When she calls me, I answer. When her dad calls, 99% of the time, she answers. When I call? its a 50/50 chance she will pick up. Seriously.
funny. I started this post days ago.well, started is kind of a stretch, I wrote the title, and then nothing more…hhmmm. deep message there? Or did the phone ring or Jax poo his pants? or did I just decide i had nothing that day….
For the kids: love, acceptance, free babysitting, peace of mind, prayer, money, gifts, that about says it all.
for the kids…hhhmmm. loaded subject there…